I would say to the wall, purposely turned away from my mom perched gingerly on the side of my bed. "Honey," she would respond, "It's hard to just guess what you want to talk about." I usually met this gentle...
Tag: Teenage Brain
Posted by Erin Walsh • March 5 • No Comments
Posted by Erin Walsh • January 30 • No Comments
“What is wrong with me?”
This was not an infrequent refrain when I was a teenager. I am sure that some of my behavior (e.g. So. Much. Crying.) wasn’t easy to understand. The transition from happiness to complete despair during my adolescence sometimes clocked in at about 2 seconds, abrupt to say the least. No doubt this was disorienting to my parents...More...
Posted by Erin Walsh • November 1, 2016 • No Comments
I can still remember the kitchen conversation as my brothers excitedly hatched the plan with their friends. “Yes! Let’s do it!” was the consensus as five teenage boys raced out the front door with their skateboards. Ten...More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • June 13, 2016 • 1 Comment
Many parents drag their feet into the dreaded "sex talk" with their children. Maybe it's time we take the pressure off of that single talk. If we want the sex and relationships our children ultimately have to be physically, psychologically, and emotionally healthy then we'd better start talking to them about it early and often.
Some parents don't talk to their kids about sex...More...
Erin Walsh • November 9, 2015 • No Comments
"I know there is a lot to be excited about, but I can't help but feel depressed about all the time that kids are spending online," a father of a middle schooler said at a workshop last week. Another parent added, "Well, you aren't alone. I am not sure that social media isn't making my daughter depressed too!"
Parents everywhere are expressing similar concerns about how digital...More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • April 1, 2015 • No Comments
I had just finished an iBrain presentation for parents when a couple approached me. “Do you have a minute for a question?” the gentleman asked.
“Sure,” I responded. “How can I help...More...
Kiyah Duffey, Ph.D. • March 31, 2015 • No Comments
It is impossible to walk through a grocery store these days and not feel conflicted by the images plastered over magazine covers. Headlines like “Lose Your Belly Fat in Just 10 Days!” or “Best and Worst Beach Bodies”...More...
Your Kids ARE Listening: Why You Should Talk to Them About Love, Sex, and Relationships (Lessons from South Carolina)
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • October 8, 2014 • No Comments
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • May 29, 2014 • No Comments
We just wrote a post about adolescent mental health. Realizing that your teen is struggling is the first step. Gaining access to mental health care is another.
The mental health system can be very difficult to navigate as you explore treatment options and look for services for your teen. Good programs struggle to find...More...
Dr. Dave Walsh and Erin Walsh • May 28, 2014 • 1 Comment
I received a phone call this past winter from a parent who had attended one of my workshops a few weeks before.
"Dr. Walsh, I definitely feel like I know a lot more about what is going on inside my daughter's brain after your workshop. But I have to say that it feels like my daughter is a lot more extreme.
"What do you mean? Can you give me some examples?" I...More...
Dr. Dave Walsh and Erin Walsh • May 26, 2014 • 2 Comments
We are so excited that the tenth anniversary edition of Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen is hitting the shelves next week. The new version is packed full of new information and practical strategies for raising thriving young people. Revising it has been a labor of love so we threw a little homemade video together this weekend to...More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • March 28, 2014 • 4 Comments
Getting my kids out of bed in the morning when they were teenagers felt like an epic battle of wills. I remember my son Brian begging for just five more minutes of sleep as if his life depended on it. Convinced that his fatigue was caused by going to bed too late, we tried to convince him to close his eyes earlier than eleven o'clock.
"I'm just not tired!" he would protest....More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • October 16, 2013 • 2 Comments
One summer evening when Monica and I were reading after dinner, our thirteen-year-old son Brian came in the back door. As he walked by the living room, both of our jaws dropped at the sight of his bright orange hair. When I say bright I mean practically neon.
Luckily we had the presence of mind to say nothing. We looked at each other and forged a silent agreement - this situation...More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • August 5, 2013 • No Comments
"Dad, Andy just called and his family is heading out to dinner and he wants to know if I can come. Can I?" My son Brian asked.
"That sounds fun but you promised to clean up the basement today." I responded.
"Dad, Andy is leaving for the summer this weekend and this is my chance to see him. Can I clean the basement tomorrow?"
"Do we have a deal that you'll get it cleaned...More...
Posted by Erin Walsh • June 20, 2013 • No Comments
"I'm afraid I might just disappear"
In my early twenties I facilitated a workshop with middle schoolers around the theme of courage. The teachers warned me that one student might be a bit difficult to deal with. “She’s always acting out and challenging authority,” one of the teachers said.
The workshop went along uneventfully until one of the...More...
Dr. Dave and Erin Walsh • March 11, 2013 • No Comments
Dr. Dave, I am having a problem with my eleven year old son. It seems like all we do is argue and I am tired. I try to explain what I am doing in terms of my parenting decisions and why I am doing it but it never ends. He is so strong willed but I am the parent. He needs to listen to me. Help!
Scott, You are not alone! For lots of...More...
Posted by Erin Walsh • January 17, 2013
"I just don't get it!" Sighed a dad I spoke to last week. "We have talked about this over and over again. She knows better!"
He was referring to his daughter's online foray into posting pictures that she probably shouldn't have. The pictures weren't wildly inappropriate - but taken out of context it sounded like this dad definitely was justified in his concern that they were...More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • November 13, 2012
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • November 13, 2012
My daughter seems to be "dating" a different boy every few months. She is in high school and we have talked a lot about respectful relationships etc.. and she seems to be doing all this okay but she doesn't seem to stay in relationships very long. Should I be worried?
Sue, Kentucky... More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • September 18, 2012
Before I had a teenager I used to joke that my kids will someday be mortified to be seen with me! I knew it was coming - it just doesn't feel good now that it is here. My 16 year old daughter wants NOTHING to do with me but I don't want to give up on our relationship. Help!
Margarite, Having raised three kids I...More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • August 22, 2012
We talk to parents a lot about the teenage brain and the development of the prefrontal cortex (PFC) during adolescence. We know that young people need a lot of practice managing their emotional impulses and that, for some teens, things can turn rocky or explosive on a dime.
When your teen's PFC heads out to lunch,...More...
Posted by Erin Walsh • June 11, 2012
It seems like every conversation I have with my thirteen year old ends in a fight. I try to keep my cool but even then my daughter acts like I am the worst mom in the world. Any suggestions? Why is this happening so much more with my daughter than my 8 year old son?
At the end of a conversation with your...More...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • May 21, 2012
I just wrote a post about alcohol effects on the teenage brain. Caring and connected parents are the number one protective factor for teens. Here are some ideas to get you started:
- Don't duck the hard conversations. Talk to your kids about smoking, drinking, and drugs. Avoid one "big talk" and replace it with consistent and ongoing...
Posted by Dr. Dave Walsh • May 21, 2012 • 1 Comment
I am worried that my daughter has started drinking with her friends and am scared to death about what might happen. My daughter tells me that some of the parents at her school are hosting parties so that they can keep the kids "safe" and away from driving. That seems crazy to me. Any advice on what to do?
Posted by Erin Walsh • May 10, 2012
I just wrote a post on the importance of face-to-face interaction for tweens. Here are a couple of ways to make sure you are striking a good balance between online and offline time:
- Make meal times screen free. This is a great time to start conversations about the day and connect with one another.
- Ask your...