I just wrote a post on the teenage brain and the pitfalls of what I call "adult amnesia." Here are some tips to combat your selective memory of adolescence!
- Try to recall your own confusion and discovery, excitement and frustration, happiness and heartbreak during your teen years. It will help give you patience.
- Remember that every generation of parents is convinced that their teens seem lazier, angrier, less capable of thinking through the consequences of their actions, and more willing to drive the adults in their life insane.
- Remember that some turmoil during the teen years is normal.
- Don’t take it personally. Teens like to reserve the worst behavior for their parents
- Remind yourself of the strengths you had when you were a teenager. Today's teenagers have strengths too - learn about them.
- Learn as much as you can about the teenage brain. It explains a lot. I wrote a book about this called Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen.